But first I want to thank you for the comments and the texts and emails from my last post. I love you all so much!! The support and advice I have received from my blog sisters has been incredible. Read suggested that I might be depressed and I should see my doctor to maybe get some meds. I was already taking an antidepressant but I did go back to my doctor and she changed my prescription and I am starting to feel a lot better. I probably wouldn't have thought to do that without that email. Thank you Read....once again you said just what I needed to hear. I have a HUGE hug waiting for you in Chicago.
- Wade moved out last weekend. Actually, I kicked him out. The final straw was when he asked me what would I do if he spent a weekend with one of his 'friends'. Then come to find out he already spent the weekend before with her when I thought he was at a family reunion. Like he wanted my permission to fuck someone else? REALLY? And he finds it necessary to twist the knife in my back a little more by telling me about it. And he was overdrawn in his account so I asked him how he thought he was going to get there since she lives 3 hours away. She was going to give him gas money. I told him that makes him the prostitute. I stewed about it all day at work, then came home and told him he had to leave for the night, that I could not deal with him there. I didn't care where he went or if he slept in his car but I couldn't deal with him here. So he spent the weekend with her. When he got back I told him he had until the end of the week to be out of my house. It was hard to do but I felt so much better afterwards, like I finally opened the door to being able to move forward with my life.
- I filed for divorce on the 23rd. I did a workshop at the courthouse and filled out the papers myself. I have to wait 20 days and then turn the final papers into the judge. Can't beat a divorce for $155. Want to know what the 20 day mark is? Our anniversary. Fucking perfect! It will take the judge 1-2 weeks to sign the final papers and it will be done. You know what that means? It will be final either the week before or the week of BOOBs in Chicago. I will be accepting any and all drink donations in celebration of getting rid of the douche canoe. (I love saying that!)
- I am going to be able to stay in my house, at least for now. My sister (Clumsy who hasn't blogged in like forever but needs to get her ass in gear) and her family have moved in. We are the village raising the children....her 15 year old son and 13 year old daughter and my 13 year old son. Her husband has been awesome about everything. I have been calling him my serogate husband because he's doing all the work without the sex LOL. So my sister has started calling us sister-wives. And you should see the looks we get in the store when she says that. It is hilarious and I'm loving it! The kids like their new school they really like living in a safer neighborhood. We are combining our cat prides and I now have two ball pythons residing in my living room. Just call us the Animal Planet....3 dogs, 2 snakes, and more cats than I dare publicly admit to LOL. I love having my sister and her family here. Even with all the kids and animals it feels so peaceful and homey.
- I have clothes for the BOOBs clothing exchange. Mostly sizes 2X and 24. And my sister is donating a few things for me to bring too...mostly nighties....all practically brand new and clean I can assure you...compliments of Clumsy.
- I am so freaking excited to see everyone in Chicago. I am literally counting down the hours on a cool little app I have on my phone. It is now 24 days, 8 hours, and 35 minutes until I will be getting on the plane. I have my outfit for Saturday night all ready to go and no I am not wearing a dress this year. Is anyone going to Chinatown? Can I tag along? I am dying to go in that purse store that Draz, Jen, and Amy W found last year. Oh...and the 'Toy' Store too. As I am now celibate I plan to do some well-earned shopping there too :)
Sleep tight and don't let the bed bugs bite my pretties!!!
yay Chinatown! You sound like you are feeling a bit better, sorry I've been MIA... I think about you everyday- love ya big time!
ReplyDeleteYay! You finally posted! Totally jealous you're going to Hinder... but if anyone deserves a treat its you. Love you. Can't wait to see you. :)
ReplyDeleteThis post makes me soo happy - to see you taking a stand and feeling better. Did you see you were BOOB of the day last week?
ReplyDeleteHey there, I'm a new-ish follower and first time poster...your's is one of the blogs I went back and read from the beginning, and I just wanted to say how much I admire you. It sounds like it has been a rough ass year, and I think you are handling it like a trooper - I am always happy to see a new post from you! So glad you're feeling a bit better...
ReplyDeleteI don't know you well but you sound so happy!! Lookingforward to meeting you!
ReplyDeleteI've been having a bad day and this post brightened my day. I'm glad you're such a strong woman and have a supportive family. I love the whole "sister-wife" thing. Splurge at the toy store, you deserve it!!!
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely happy post. I'm so glad you kicked that scumbag out. errrr
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad you went to the doctor and hope it continues to help!! And like Draz, this post made me very happy! Yay!!!
ReplyDeleteBest of luck to you in this next stage of your life. Divorce is hard no matter who chooses to initiate it. You have a great attitude!
ReplyDeleteI am so glad you are sounding better... I loved talking to you last night and can't wait to check out the goodies you're bringing and I would love to go to chinatown with ya... I love toys, even with a full-time partner. Yay! Shopping!
ReplyDeleteI am so glad you took Read's advice and saw the doctor. I totally thought Clumsy was joking when we chatted a couple of weeks ago about moving in. I'm so excited that yall are able to do this and look out for each other in the process.
ReplyDeleteI'm so proud of you for kicking that trash to the curb and moving on with your life. You are going to shine...he is going to perish. Can't wait to see you in Chicago.
This blog about made me cry...from happiness! You see how things work out when they need to? Trust me, you'll get more than your chare of celebratory drinks in Chi-Town!! :)
ReplyDeletenew follower :) loved reading your blog!
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